“This I know, that God is for me. In God, whose word I praise, in the Lord, whose word I praise. In God I have put my trust, I shall not be afraid. What can man do to me?” Psalm 56:10-11 NASB
Our single moms drag themselves with their children through the doors of our room at the church on Wednesday nights with heavy hearts. Often we five mentor moms have no idea the burdens they are carrying. Some of us have no way of identifying with their daily struggles as two of us did not walk the hard journey of a single mom. The Lord Himself drew us into this ministry. But as we have known of God’s unfailing love in our lives, we have brought only His love with us into this ministry.
One evening, one of our moms was especially sad, which is unusual for her. In the middle of our lesson on the life of King David, this mom suddenly broke down, weeping uncontrollably. “I just can’t take my child’s behavior anymore. I’m ready to ship her off to her dad. For good,” she cried. She explained her child’s difficult behavior and poor choices in school as well as home. Being the fix-it kind of mentor moms we are, we felt helpless with this situation. We could offer for her to seek counseling from the school; we could suggest she read up on oppositional behavior. But at that moment, our precious mom didn’t need a fix-it solution. She needed some love.
One by one we got up from our chairs and gathered around her, putting our hand on her shoulder, and together we prayed loud and long for our sister in the Lord who was at the end of her rope. After those who had felt led to pray aloud, we opened our eyes, blew our noses and gave deep hugs to our fellow mom in crisis. Was her situation changed? Had her daughter suddenly appeared in our room with a radiant smile instead of a sulk? Not at all. Nothing had changed; yet, everything had changed. Her focus had been shifted from her circumstances to her Savior.
I don’t always get how this happens; that when I shift my focus from my dire circumstance to trust in an invisible God, my racing heart slows to a normal pulse, my hands stop sweating, I’m filled with a renewed sense of hope, and I know that my situation is now in His hands and He knows how to deal with it better than I do.
Our single moms ministry does not solve our moms’ problems. Our purpose is to bring them into an awareness of the power of the promises in the word of God, to pray boldly for them, and to encourage them in their daily walk with the Lord, trusting Him to lead them to the job they need, the right school, the counselor, etc. And He does. The following week, the mom in crisis walked in to the room with a smile. She had been practicing meditating on Scripture in the mornings and setting her focus on the Lord. Her daughter had chosen to make better choices that week, much to the delight of her teacher and her mother!
“With God, all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26 NASB